We tend to fall into a very sorry state when we expect to be relationally perfect. One of the most pressured environments that one can strive for this ‘Relational Perfection’ is within the Christian sub-cultures.

Whether we expect this of one another or of ourselves, it is not how human beings function. 

Subconsciously, we are expecting to not make a mistake. Especially with the added pressures of claiming that we have met Jesus.

So what do we have to learn to have a good relationship?

Say Sorry. Often. This is humility.

Communicate. Our smiles and food are not the only things our mouths were made for. I’ve learnt that we need to overcome fear. Communication can be terrifying. 

Create Culture. I’ve worked at cultivating a culture of openness and a space where it is safe to share. I work to remind others that we are a team in our relationship and that we are not out to get one another. Let’s put the problem and the table and tackle it together. Its not you, its not me. Its just happening and we need to solve it. This diffuses the power of blame-game tactics.